Has This Been Happening to You?

You attend a virtual meeting of a group that was met regularly. The next day, one of your colleagues calls you and shares he is mad about the meeting. It could be a variety of reasons – lack of meeting focus, too little participation, too much oversight – the reasons don’t really matter. You spend 20 minutes discussing the meeting. There is really no “right answer,” but you know it’s a mess. You hang up the phone. How do you feel?

Let me guess. Tired? Frustrated? Depressed? Unproductive? Distracted?

Sigh.

How do you find a way forward? How do you show resilience? How do you keep a positive attitude?

Here’s what I do, maybe it will help you during this time.

• Ask, what is my role in this?

  • If the answer is “none,” Let it go and move on (LIGAMO)

  • If you have a role, the next question is …

• What can I do about it? What are my options?

  • If you don’t have any options … LIGAMO

  • If you have some good options, the next question is …

• Do any of these have the potential to solve the problem?

  • If none of them will solve the problem … LIGAMO

  • If one of them has the potential to solve the problem, the next question is …

• Am I willing to do my part in the solution?

  • If you aren’t willing to do your part … LIGAMO

  • If you are willing to do your part, don’t waste time and take the first step.

I have found the majority of time, I LIGAMO. This means I have more energy and am more productive at my other responsibilities. I use these same questions with a lot of my “problems.”

Give it a try. You just might LIGAMO too!